The Basic Rule of Dating
Author: Gabriel
Ok fellas, let’s talk about the absolute basic rule in the dating world. If you're ever in doubt during your dating conquests, always remind yourself of the most important rule of dating. Again, as I like to put my disclaimer on all of my writings, this will not apply to EVERY SINGLE GIRL. Women are unique creatures that all have their own quirks. But for the most part, this rule applies:
Women (and men for the most part) want what they can’t have and don’t respect what they can’t get rid of. I know you’ve heard it over and over again, but it is true. This concept is perhaps the most important knowledge you can glean from this site. I have seen it over and over again in my own personal life and also in the many lives of fine young men I have coached to stud status. Use this understanding to your advantage.
For example, let's say you’re not really getting anywhere with a girl, or want to get back with a girlfriend. If you understand the basic rule, your battle plan for succeeding with this girl is much more clear. The tough part is following through with your battle plan and winning the war completely. Suppose you're after a girl who is kinda "ehhh... whatever" about you. She might have a tad bit of interest, but generally doesn't even give you the time of day. The key is to make it appear to her that you are unattainable. Either that you are too good for her or that you’re just plain not interested in her.
Now, let's say you’ve already shown that you’re interested in her, and she knows it. You might think you're screwed, but you're not. Just act as if you're no longer interested in her. "You’ve just lost that loving feeeeeeling, oh-oh that loving feeling." It happens.
The above example is actually the best scenario. If at one time you were pining over her, and now suddenly show no interest, she’ll wonder what the hell happened. Women like to be adored, to be thought of as pretty, or to be sought after. Hell, we all do. Being sought after is like getting a nice massage. It feels good, we like it, and then all of a sudden they quit and you're like……"Hey, don’t quit, I liked that, it felt good.... what does it take to get that back again?"
It works the same way with women. You have to make it seem like you are over her and that she can’t have you anymore. It will drive her crazy. Trust me, she’ll want what she can’t have. Even better yet, she’ll want back what she once had.
Now please note, this advice doesn’t apply to girls who have absolutely no interest in you whatsoever. If there is not even the tiniest spark of interest, then she will be happy as shit that she can’t have you. Know why? Cause she doesn’t want any part of you!!! Don't waste your time. Move onto another girl.
A great book that teaches the basics of attracting women is The Art of Approaching Women by Joseph Matthews. It provides a plethora of advice that will help you in your dating endeavors.
Now, there are two parts to the "want what you can't have" scheme that we as men seem to fuck up royally. We tend to lose our testicles as soon as there is any sign that our plan is working. We do the Silence of the Lambs nutsack tuck, and fuck it up for ourselves. It’s kind of like the first war in Iraq. We went in there and cleaned some fucking house, but just before we had it totally fucking annihilated, we quit. Ehhhh, good enough, that should do, right? ……… look what we have now, a mess we couldn’t clean up with a vacuum the size of Asia. If you’re gonna start the war here, you damn well better finish it.
The hard parts of this game are twofold. First, you have to actually stand firm and convince her that she can't have you. Not only do you have to be believable, you have to play out the gig long enough to get the power back in your favor. If you don’t take it far enough, you’ll be right back where you started.
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